Set priorities, schedule self-care and make time for what's important, author says.
Author Lisa Druxman is the dynamic founder of FIT4MOM, a national fitness company that operates a range of classes to help women get back in shape after having a baby. After spending years interacting with busy moms, and raising her own kids while also running a growing business, Lisa has gathered her wisdom and experience in her new book, The Empowered Mama: How to Reclaim Your Time and Yourself While Raising a Happy, Healthy Family. We spoke with Lisa to learn more about how women can fit wellness and self-care into our hectic lives without giving up on fulfilling work, in or out of the home.
Live Happy: Lisa, what made you want to write this book?
Lisa Druxman: Everything we do at FIT4MOM is about helping women realize their strengths in motherhood. I get a chance to meet moms across the country, and they all say they are overwhelmed. I have learned a lot since founding the company (and growing it while raising my own family), and I wanted to shorten the learning curve for other women. The Empowered Mama is the culmination of the wisdom and experience I’ve acquired over all this time.
Why is it important for moms in particular to engage in self-care?
Moms are used to caring for their family—putting others first. But you can’t pour from an empty cup. As moms we set the tone, and we set the energy for the whole family, so it is crucial that we take time to take care of ourselves.
What do you think are some of the biggest challenges for moms today?
We are trying to be supermoms. We are living in the age of Pinterest when we think we have to have our houses look a certain way, and party decorations have to be a certain way… Seventy percent of moms are working full- or part-time, so with that, taking care of the kids, the house—they wish there were more hours of the day, but they would just fill it up with more errands. Instead, we need to be more purposeful about how we use time. We need to set priorities, say no to some things and let go of perfection.
You are in the fitness business, yet you included many aspects of life in the book in addition to exercise and nutrition. How did you decide to do that?
My master’s degree is in psychology, so I am fascinated by the mind and the power of the mind. I’ve been in the fitness industry for 25 years, and I’ve learned that you can’t become happy and healthy just by being fit. We have to change our mindset. To me that means thinking about things like purpose, values and goals, so I have included what I’ve learned over the years in this book, in a fun, interactive way.
What is the most important thing you think moms can do to improve their well-being?
Give yourself permission to take care of yourself.
Exercise and good nutrition are necessities, not luxuries.
Take little breaks: Have a bath, enjoy a nap, unplug from digital devices.
Write down your core values, and make sure your behaviors are aligned with them.
Learn to delegate and say “No.”
Figure out in which areas of life you might be lacking or over-committing.
Create a Personal Action Plan to achieve specific goals.
Use The Slight Edge philosophy to make incremental positive changes in your life.